Making Love Last with Dr. Robert Sternberg
Play • 1 hr 4 min

Your relationship needs intimacy, passion, and commitment if you want it to stand the test of time. Not only that, you need enough of these three qualities to help you get through the rough or dull parts. And lastly, you need realistic expectations of what a relationship can realistically provide.

Dr. Robert Sternberg is a professor of Human Development at Cornell University, the author of The New Psychology of love, and has been writing on the subject of love for over 30 years.


What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The triangular theory of love (intimacy, passion, and commitment)

• The importance of defining what loves means to you

• How putting the other first can lead to long term relationship satisfaction


Where to find Dr. Robert Sternberg:



Resources and Links

The triangular theory of love

The New Psychology of Love by Dr. Robert Sternberg and Dr. Karen Sternberg


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Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries
Beyond Bitchy: Mastering the Art of Boundaries
Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW
#119- ENCORE - Is Free Speech Really Free?
There's been a lot of talk recently about free speech—specifically, news stories about a somewhat infamous media figure who was banned from several major social media sites. It got me to thinking about the limits of free speech, which is all about boundaries. In this episode I'll talk about why boundaries have a lot to do with free speech, as well as how freedom of speech operates in both physical and virtual space. Biggest Takeaways From Episode #28: * Although each of us is free to say or do whatever we want, freedom to do what we want also comes with certain consequences—positive, neutral, or negative. * Boundaries create limits, but they also create space. The amount of space a boundary creates has a lot to do with the limit that is created. For example, if you put a fence around your property, you’re creating a clear limit, but you’re also creating more private space that can only be accessed by you. * Free speech is determined by who controls the space where speech occurs. Whoever owns or controls a space gets to decide what the limits are. This is true whether it’s a physical space (such as your house or a business’ office) or a virtual space (such as a social media site, website, or blog). * It’s not anyone's responsibility to provide a platform or vehicle for another person to get information they want. For example, if you're following someone on Twitter and they get banned because of Twitter's boundaries, Twitter is not responsible for providing you a platform to connect with the person they banned. Today, just about anyone with a small amount of resources and money can create their own virtual space, which makes giving and getting information freely far more accessible than at any other time in human history. Highlights from Episode #28: * We hear about the topic of today’s episode, as well as the inspiration for it. [00:48] * Vicki reads the first amendment of the U.S. Constitution for listeners who may need a refresher. She then digs into the topic of consequences. [03:11] * Boundaries not only create limits; they also create space. Vicki explores this concept, then links it to the concept of free speech. [07:32] * Vicki gives examples of what it means for people who own a particular physical or virtual space to make decisions about who and how others are permitted to express themselves in those spaces. [12:04] * We learn how the concepts Vicki has been exploring relate to virtual space. [16:51] * Vicki points out that just about anyone with some resources can create their own virtual space to say whatever they want to say. [22:03] * There are some environments that are truly oppressive in terms of what they allow people to say or express, and when you encounter one of those, it's probably best to find another community or environment that allow you greater freedom of expression. [24:40] Links and Resources: * Vicki Tidwell Palmer * Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer * 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier * US Bill of Rights
30 min
Always Evolving with Coach Mike Bayer
Always Evolving with Coach Mike Bayer
Stage 29 Podcast Productions
Shawn Stevenson: Upgrade Your Mind and Body
At twenty years old Shawn Stevenson was diagnosed with a degenerative disc and bone disease his doctors said could not be helped. He accepted his diagnosis until his grandmother convinced him he had to fight for his future. Inspired, he decided to learn everything there is to know about human health, and what he discovered about food changed his life. Today Shawn is author of the USA Today National bestselling book Eat Smarter and the international bestseller Sleep Smarter. In this vital episode of “Evolving With Coach Mike” he shares his incredible journey from helplessness to empowered self-healer. Along the way Shawn cleans up misinformation created by product marketing and identifies what nutritional deficiencies we face, what foods damage our DNA, impair cognitive performance and cause weight gain. He shares key parts of his successful effort to overcome the poisonous “nocebo effect” on his state of mind that can follow a negative diagnosis, and then clearly redefines what health is and is not.   Shawn is also creator of The Model Health Show, featured as the #1 health podcast in the U.S. with millions of listener downloads each year. A graduate of the University of Missouri–St. Louis, Shawn studied business, biology, and nutritional science and became the cofounder of the Advanced Integrative Health Alliance. Shawn has been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, The New York Times, Muscle & Fitness, ABC News, ESPN, and many other major media outlets. FB: IG: Twitter: IG: TikTok: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
52 min
Unapologetically Sensitive
Unapologetically Sensitive
Patricia Young
102 How to Manage Your Anxiety in a Holistic, Loving Way with Victoria Albina
TITLE How to Manage Your Anxiety in a Holistic, Loving Way GUEST Victoria Albina EPISODE OVERVIEW Victoria defines anxiety, and we talk about social and anticipatory anxiety—especially as they are related to the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Victoria talks about de-armoring, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependency. Victoria gives an abundance of things we can do to ground ourselves, and we explore common reactions when someone says, “We need to talk.” Victoria ends with talking about polyvagal theory. HIGHLIGHTS * If beating yourself worked; it would have worked by now * What is anxiety? * * Increased heart rate * Body is revved up * Everything is heightened * Everything is more intense * Anxiety * * Social * * What will others think? * What if I don’t do good enough? * Anticipatory * Perfectionism * * The pressure to meet impossible standards * People pleasing * Codependency * Ways to get back into one’s body * * Hugging yourself * Warm tea * Remind ourselves we are safe * Think of a loving person (grandparent, teacher) * Connect with a pet * Connect with mother nature * Ways to get grounded * * When you feel panic and your flooded * Slow the world down * Orienting * Explore your clothing * Have a hot cup of tea * Warm shower or bath * Use lavender (roller, essential oils) * Do something that requires fine motor skills * * Use your thumb to touch each finger and go back and forth and count * Use a weighted blanket * Use a soft cozy blanket * Gentle movement * Stroll * Shaking (start with one hand and see how it feels) * If you’re stuck in Dorsal (sympathetic) * * Ice * Cold * Cold water on your wrist * Cold water on the inside of your elbow (opposite to elbow) * Orient to the environment * Task-oriented * * Look at the environment * Count colors or shapes * Brisk walk * Shaking (try it on one hand first to see how it works with your system) * Polyvagal Theory * * Sympathetic fight/flight * Vagus nerve * Parasympathetic * * Ventral (the front) * * Safe * Seek social connection * Dorsal (back) * * Barricaded GUEST Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Certified Life Coach and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping women realize that they are their own best healers, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, has a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson valley. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Victoria’s Links * Website— * Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness * Podcast: Feminist Wellness * Facebook— * LinkedIn— Free Guided Experience-- Deb Dana book—Polyvagal Theory in Therapy Deb Dana Website-- Stephen Porges-- Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course-- To purchase podcast/logo merchandise— Coupon Code good through January 31, 2021: HSP0121 Podcast Survey-- Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- Sign up for the Newsletter-- To write a review in itunes: * click on this link * select “listen on Apple Podcasts” * chose “open in itunes” * choose “ratings and reviews” * click to rate the number of starts * click “write a review” Facebook-- Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- Instagram-- Youtube-- Tik Tok-- e-mail-- Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Shelly Aaron Productions— Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson
59 min
The Behavioral Observations Podcast with Matt Cicoria
The Behavioral Observations Podcast with Matt Cicoria
Matt Cicoria
Lessons from Implementing the PFA Process: Session 145 with The Consultants for Children
In Session 145, I speak with Deidre Sturm and Anne Denning from The Consultants for Children, an agency that supports individuals with ASD based out of Colorado. Together, Anne and Deidre tell the story of how they completely revamped their agency’s approach to supporting individuals with problem behavior. After not seeing much success with their existing functional assessment practices, they dove deep into the work of Dr. Greg Hanley and his colleagues. After taking all the online professional development that’s available on the IISCA or PFA approach, Deidre and Anne, along with the rest of their colleagues at The Consultants for Children, began slowly rolling out this process on an agency-wide basis. During this conversation, we cover how they got started, what they’ve learned from implementing these procedures “in the real world” – especially in the context of telehealth – and lots more. Here are the links to the resources we discuss: * FTF Behavioral Consultants’ online course library (Patron discount available!). * Greg’s companion website, Practical Functional Assessment. * The IISCA App. * Cusp Emergence University (Dr. Camille Kolu’s online training resources for Trauma Informed Care). * CEU’s from The Behavioral Observation Podcast (Patron discount available!). * Greg Hanley’s appearances on the BOP. * Camille Kolu’s appearance on the BOP. * WYZE Indoor Cameras (Amazon associate link). * Children’s Habilitation Rehabilitation Program Waiver (CHRP; State of Colorado). As an aside, an ad-free version show has already been shared with members of my Patreon group, which you can learn more about at Also, if you're a member of the All-Access Patron Tier or above, you have access to 20% discount codes to FTF's online trainings. There are more benefits available too, but this one alone is literally worth the cost on its own. Session 145 is also brought to you with support from: * Gateway Learning Group, and their Autism Leadership Academy. Designed for new Regional Directors, the Autism Leadership Academy develops motivated BCBAs into successful leaders in the autism field. If you’re interested in running your own regional center and want to learn the skills to do so successfully, check out Note: Immediate openings available in Texas. BCBAs across the U.S. are encouraged to apply! * HRIC Recruiting. Barb Voss has been placing BCBAs in permanent positions throughout the US for just about a decade, and has been in the business more generally for 30 years. When you work with HRIC, you work directly with Barb, thereby accessing highly personalized service. So if you're about to graduate, you're looking for a change of pace, or you just want to know if the grass really is greener on the other side, head over to to schedule a confidential chat right away.
1 hr 8 min
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