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TGNG Podcast 050 - From Opposition to Understanding with Fish Gill

We all know how it feels to be in conflict with someone. We also know how it feels to want to be right, no matter the cost. Being able to see the power in letting go of righteousness, and becoming aware of our tendency to look for certainty is what we need, in order to have loving relationships. A very warm welcome everyone, to this episode of The Good News Guide. A loving collection of conversations, stories, ideas, practices and tools from the greatest teachers, speakers, thought leaders, healers and humans on the planet. In this episode, Lisa has a wonderfully heart centred, cautionary conversation on the need for congruence, with heart coach James ‘Fish’ Gill. ‘Fish’ is an Australian transformational facilitator and yoga teacher. He creates transformative social and emotional learning experiences that grow empathy, connection and understanding in the face of conflict, complexity and difficulty (or as he terms it, turn shit to gold). They really dive into where conflict really lies in our relationships, what we’re really afraid of when we insist on being right. It’s time to understand the black & white nature of our brains, and the need to listen to our heart more when it comes to our relationships. When we can understand that we hold, in our hearts, incongruent desires; then we can start to accept others and the idea that right & wrong are not ideals to strive for. We don’t need to fix each other or assign blame. We can co-exist in love for each other, understanding one another and offering each other safety. All we yearn for is to be seen, heard and understood. Links: Website: www.giliairfest.com/James.html FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/jamesfishgill A bit about Lisa: Lisa is an author, speaker, truth seeker with qualifications in numerous energy modalities. She is passionate about life and it is with her big heart and love of humans, combined with an innate ability to communicate, that she effortlessly uncovers the gold that exists within people and their lives. Lisa has been deeply immersed in the world of personal development for well over a decade and has experienced the gifts of deeply transforming oneself from suffering and surviving to thriving. She brings to the table a real rawness, integrity, authenticity and infectious energy that has people deeply engaged in her conversations and work. Her inspiration and her ‘why’ is to support people in reconnecting with the immense power that resides within them, and remembering that they are more extraordinary, more beautiful and more powerful than they have ever known. For more from The Good News Guide please join our FaceBook group: www.facebook.com/thegoodnewsguide Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 02:23 - Welcome Fish! 05:05 - Dissolving ‘conflict’ - moments of pain between us 08:08 - Letting go of certainty. 10:10 - How does Fish work with people to overcome their threat response? 15:15 - Grab an example of being triggered & work with Fish here! 21:30 - Pausing the need to fix & escape - stand in complexity 25:52 - None of us want to be wrong 31:07 - Reassurance from understand yourself 36:35 - Being right is not a zero-sum game! 43:15 - What to do when your partner isn’t willing to do the work 45:40 - Triggering safety rather than opposition in others 55:30 - No one chooses to be oppositional 01:01:30 - Simple to understand, hard to implement 01:04:11 - Certainty & curiosity don’t hang out at the same parties 01:08:42 - Opening yourself up to vulnerability - “I will, even if you won’t” 01:13:00 - Caring for & restoring prisoners 01:16:00 - Wrap up

1 hr 18 min