Aoife O'Brien has had many adventures, having traveled to all seven continents... even Antarctica! However, she is quick to confess that even as an adventurous person change can feel rather difficult at times.
She has a Masters in Organizational Behavior, a degree which she completed during lockdown, and is passionate (like I am) about creating happier workplace dynamics. In fact, when Aoife and I spoke on her show (you can listen to that episode of the Happier at Work Podcast here!) it felt very much like meeting my long-lost twin but with different areas of expertise. While I have a background in improvisation, play, and facilitation, Aoife has a background in data and analysis.
In our conversation on the Changed Podcast which we recorded back in February of this year (2021), Aoife O'Brien talks a bit about what it means to be an entrepreneur, both the inspiration and the reality behind the choice to leave working in a corporate environment in order to pursue being one's own boss. We also discuss the helpful practice of journaling through difficult changes; and the realization that when it comes to the big bold moves, you cannot wait for someone else to come take you by the hand, and lead you where you want to go.
For all you solopreneurs out there... we see you. We are you! You're working hard. Harder than you might have expected. But if you're like us, doing what you love doesn't really feel like work. Still, strive for balance! Don't let yourself get stuck on defining yourself as 'busy!'
And for those of you considering leaving your salaried positions to venture forth on your own, here are some things to consider:
Not everyone wants the same things that you do. Not everyone interprets the options in the way that you do. You are the only one who truly understands what you want and need or who can view your particular moment or situation with your instincts for action. Like in improv, when you have the thought that something should be happening, or that somebody ought to be making something happen... that somebody is you!
Journaling is a great way to process change. I tried desperately to find the journaling process that I found so impactful when my first marriage came to a close so that I could share it with you. Unfortunately, too much time has passed and I cannot find the original piece! BUT here is my rough memory of the prompts that were most helpful.
Journaling prompts to help you heal from a divorce or breakup (These prompts (minus #3) can be used to process the end of any kind of relationship… even business. the idea is to simply create lists that you could refer back to and reflect. Embarking on this kind of process can take days or weeks. It is recommended to fully complete one step before moving to the next.)
Aoife O’Brien recommended two books:
I will throw in one more: Waking Up by Sam Harris. Throughout this book, Harris argues that there is more to understanding reality than science and secular culture generally allow and that how we pay attention to the present moment largely determines the quality of our lives.