264 Top Ego Defense Mechanisms
21 min

Words like "denial" and "projecting" are thrown around a lot in casual conversation these days. These words are actually psychological terms that are defense mechanisms, and I think we've begun to throw them around so much that defense mechanism vocabulary can easily get misunderstood. On today's episode, I go over common defense mechanism terms that we often hear, and I clarify what they actually mean.

"The more we know about the way our mind works, the better shot we have at really being the boss of us." - Terri Cole

Learn more about this episode at terricole.com/264

The Adult Chair
The Adult Chair
Michelle Chalfant
237: Healthy & Balanced Eating During the Holidays with Jessi Jean
Food is such a beautiful part of life. It’s a way of connecting with others and bringing enjoyment to your life. Unfortunately, we live in a world that makes it difficult to have a healthy relationship with food. We are met with the pressure to look a certain way, a lack of education about how to truly nourish our bodies and mixed messages that encourage both excess and deprivation — neither of which are healthy! The holidays take this struggle with food and body image to the next level. We might miss out on a celebration or connection with our family because we’re filled with guilt and fear around food or we might lose control and later regret the way we lost sight of our goals for ourselves. It’s a frustrating cycle that takes all the fun out of this beautiful season! So, in preparation for this season of feasting and celebration, I’m bringing back the lovely Jessi Jean, who is an eating psychology coach and such a grounding voice on how to have a healthy relationship with food. In this episode, Jessi talks about what a healthy relationship with food looks like, how to check in to make sure you have a balanced relationship with food and strategies for keeping that balance throughout the holidays (good news: pie is still on the menu!). Listen to discover: * The importance of your mindset going into a holiday food scene and how to prep your mind * Tangible strategies for feeling in control of your eating (while still celebrating!) * Her “future pacing” hack for eating intentionally at the holidays * How to respond to a "food pusher" and how to pull yourself out of a binge * Questions to ask to check in on your relationship with food As Jessi says in this episode, it’s not what you do with food that’s the problem; it’s how you feel about it. The important thing is to stay in touch with what’s important to you, tune into all your senses and truly enjoy the experience of the holidays! "We can't control what our loved ones are going to say. We can't control what they are going to do. But we can control our reaction and our response." - Jessi Jean "Practice being unapologetic in your decisions with food." - Jessi Jean "You teach people how to respect you by the way that you respect yourself." - Jessi Jean "When you take something away, there's the thinking that there's a lack and that triggers something inside us." - Michelle Chalfant "Anything we do that is guilt and shame and fear-based...we take a good thing and make it toxic." - Jessi Jean Resources Episode #153: Binge Eating with Jessi Jean https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/153-binge-eating-with-jessi-jean/ Jessi Jean Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn Jessi Jean The Dear Body Podcast https://risewithmeco.com/podcast/ Jessi Jean Food Freedom Program https://risewithmeco.com/ 30-Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days/ More Adult Chair The Adult Chair Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair Workshop https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification-program/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/ The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com
38 min
Relationship Alive!
Relationship Alive!
Neil Sattin
242: Using Creativity for Emotional Alchemy - plus a song!
When emotions are stuck within you - how can you use your creativity to get things moving? Sometimes the muse within you is a quiet whisper - other times screaming for your attention. Today we'll talk about how to find the voice - and what to do once you have. And, towards the end, I'll share a song with you that arrived after recording my last episode, on the process of going through a breakup and grieving. (song is at 19:20) As always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Please join us in the Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it! Sponsors: Find a quality therapist, online, to support you and work on the places where you’re stuck. For 10% off your first month, visit Betterhelp.com/ALIVE to fill out the quick questionnaire and get paired with a therapist who’s right for you. Resources: Check out my Secrets of Relationship Communication COURSE for a masterclass in how to improve the communication and connection in your relationship. I want to know you better! Take the quick, anonymous, Relationship Alive survey FREE Guide to Neil’s Top 3 Relationship Communication Secrets Guide to Understanding Your Needs (and Your Partner’s Needs) in Relationship (ALSO FREE) Support the podcast (or text “SUPPORT” to 33444) Amazing intro and outro music provided courtesy of The Railsplitters Transcript: Neil Sattin: Hello, and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host, Neil Sattin. Today's episode is going to be a little bit different. I have a few things to share with you about how to use creativity as a way to help move through emotions, and it's something that's really served me well in the past and continues to serve me well, as you'll see momentarily, because after we talk about this topic I am going to share a song with you, a song that that just emerged this past week Neil Sattin: Okay, so let's dive into the topic at hand, which is creativity and giving yourself permission to have a voice and to use your voice in ways that can help mobilize especially challenging emotions and bring them to the surface, express them in ways that are productive and maybe even move on or transmute those emotions along the way. Neil Sattin: Now, the emotional content of our lives can sometimes be quite raw, and whether it's something that we ultimately want to address with another person or not, it can be helpful to spend some time with the content in order to get a different look at it, get a different perspective, allow it to move within you and also to give you more information. I believe that our emotions are there as signals to help us understand how we are processing the world around us, and so they live in us, but they're not meant to just be stuck there. Neil Sattin: And sometimes when an emotion is just there over and over and over and over again, it's there because it requires something of us, maybe it requires a change in our lives, or maybe it's just a voice in you that needs to be heard. Now, I'll tell you that over the years, creative expression for me has been a huge way to help me deal with the things that are going on my life, and sometimes those things are happy, joyous things, and I want to find ways to celebrate even more, and sometimes those things have been painful and hard to understand, and being creative has given me the opportunity to work with those feelings to understand some of the deeper things that are going on within me that are at play, some of the different thoughts, the different inner voices that are speaking. Neil Sattin: And giving yourself the opportunity to do that can be an immensely freeing and transformative thing. And there are any number of ways to do that, you can create something that's just for you, you can create something that you share with people who you trust and who care about you, you can create something and share it with the world, or you can create something and burn it, or forget about it, because the act of creation in and of itself is alchemy, it allows you to work with what you're experiencing and in a way to move it outside of you. Interested in reading the transcript for the rest of this episode? Click here to download the full transcript of this episode!
23 min
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Kate Anthony, CPCC
Co-parenting Neurodiverse Children Post-Divorce with Elaine Taylor-Klaus
Maneuvering through a divorce is tough. Co-parenting can be even tougher. Parenting a diagnosed or newly diagnosed child with ADHD or neurodiversity post-divorce, well, things can feel downright suffocating at times. This week on the podcast we’re talking about parenting a perfectly imperfect complex child in the midst of a divorce. My guest Elaine Taylor-Klaus is an author, parent educator, and certified coach. She’s the co-founder of ImpactADHD.com and co-creator of Sanity School®. When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, Elaine’s work truly impacted the way that I moved through my son's diagnosis, parenting, co-parenting with my ex, and everything that came after that.  Seriously. Elaine’s work was a lifesaver for me. Show Highlights * Getting an ADHD diagnosis for your child. (4:20) * Now that you know what you are dealing with, what happens next? (5:00) * Moving from ‘fix-it’ mode to ‘understanding’. (8:29) * How to deal when one partner in the co-parent has ADHD and you have a child diagnosed with ADHD too. (16:31) * What to do when one parent is in denial about a diagnosis. (19:05) * Steps to help empower your child to find control where they can and help them feel good. (20:26) * Choose one thing to be important at a time and not try to do everything at once. (38:26) * What to do when your co-parent partner is criticizing your way of parenting. (42:05) Learn More About Elaine Taylor-Klaus: Elaine Taylor-Klaus is an author, parent educator, and certified coach. The co-founder of ImpactADHD.com, co-creator of Sanity School® (an online behavior therapy program), and co-author of Parenting ADHD Now! Easy Intervention Strategies to Empower Kids with ADHD, she provides coaching, training, and support for parents of complex kids – and parents raising kids in complex times. Her newest book, The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More was released in September. Elaine has served as a parent advisor for the American Academy of Pediatrics and on the national Board of Directors of CHADD. She is the mother in an ADHD++ family of six.  Resources & Links: Elaine’s website Elaine on Twitter Elaine on LinkedIn Elaine on Facebook Elaine on Instagram Bless Her Heart – She Just Doesn’t Understand ADHD (article) Kate Anthony on Instagram The Ultimate Divorce Survival Guide Should I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group
57 min
Spiritual Shit
Spiritual Shit
Alea Lovely
Ep. 96 Quantum Metaphysics & The Quantum Field That Transforms Our Physical, Spiritual & Emotional Realities ft. Axél Carrasquillo AKA Antojai
Axél Carrasquillo Msc.D. is the Founder of Antojai Ascension Academy, Developer of Antojai Quantum Healing and Ascended Master, Certified Reiki Grand Master, Naturopathic Metaphysician, and Master Shaman healer. He have a BS in health and wellness from Purdue University, a BS in linguistics from the University of Michigan, Doctoral in metaphysical sciences from the University of Sedona, and extensive mastery education from the Society of Shamans & Mediums of Europe. Axél comes from a long line of shamans. He grew up in shamanic tradition learning ancient healing arts of the mind, body, soul, and psychic. He's spent his entire life learning about the human energetic system, its chemical and physical reactions to touch, pressure, mindfulness, energy healing, positive psychology, and herbal medicine to maximize a euphoric trance that ensures a profound rejuvenation. His holistic healing style is one of a kind, and known globally for its pure power & amazing effects. Axél provides a balance of physical, spiritual, and mental energies that directly reshape your reality in mind-blowing ways. His specialty is in integrative quantum metaphysics. His understanding of the physical and metaphysical human body is very extensive. For the last twenty years of his life he have done nothing but learn, fine tune, and enhance my medical knowledge of energetic anatomy, shamanic healing, esoteric medicine, acupressure, counseling, positive programming, psychology of the subconscious, and manifestation. He's been referred to as an expert in quantum shamanic healing, and integrative metaphysics. Find him here  and on Ig here .  To work with me, Alea Lovely go here or ig here #healing #quantumfield #ascendedmaster #aliens #spiritual #spiritualshit  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/alealovely/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/alealovely/support
1 hr 26 min
Mind Love ♡ Modern Mindfulness
Mind Love ♡ Modern Mindfulness
Melissa Monte | Mindset Mentor
Deep Listening Skills for Deeper Connections and Challenging Conversations • FULL EPISODE UP FOR 24 HRS
We will learn: What does it mean to really hear someone or be deeply heard 5 Simple steps to increase high quality communication and create deeper, meaningful connections How to use social media to connect on a deeper level We are more connected than we’ve ever been, but for some reason, we’re more divided than we’ve ever been. There’s also more people on earth than there’s ever been before, but somehow, we’re lonelier than we’ve ever been. How do we come back to connection? What are we missing? I think we’re all so busy broadcasting our opinions and perfectly curating our images online that we don’t really get to know people or let people get to know us… and I mean the real us, not the Instagram versions of us. But here’s the thing… just like with everything else in life, that change starts with you. And me. To be the kind of listeners that cultivate deep and meaningful connections, we have to know how right? So that’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Terri Lonowski, She has a Masters in educational psychology, and she’s the founder of Soulful Listening. Through her own loneliness journey, she began to study what it meant to really deeply listen and why this skill is so fundamental to every human. She found that through 5 easy repeatable steps we could ease feelings of loneliness, create fulfilling connections, and begin to break free from our own limitations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
49 min
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