The difference between being patient vs. enabling toxic behavior + how to become a super self-regulator
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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I discuss the difference between enabling and empowering someone. I also discuss how learning to self-regulate your emotions and thinking can help you enforce and enact effective boundaries, and how my 5 step NeuroCycle can help you become a super self-regulator!

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5:03 What is the difference between enabling and empowering?

9:40 What is empowerment, and how can you empower a loved one and help them on their healing journey?

10:00 Why compassion can lead to empowerment OR enablement, if we are not careful

10:53 Why emotions are complicated and can lead to “messy” relationships

11:33 How do you say “no”?

12:00 How to mind manage your relationships with the Neurocycle

13:30 How the Neurocycle can help you make wiser choices and recognize the difference between enabling and empowering

18:50 Why we need to listen to and learn from our emotions and feelings, even the uncomfortable ones!

33:39 Why you cannot fix other people’s problems for them

35:10 How to empower those you love


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