Good Girls Talk About Sex
Masturbation was more sinful than sex – Shelly
Jul 3, 2019 · 45 min
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Shelly is a 44-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, lesbian, living with her girlfriend and monogamous. She grew up in the Mormon church, got married and had seven children as she was expected to do. Then several years ago she started questioning her faith and left the church. She then realized that she’s also a lesbian, which is an extreme no-no in the Mormon church.

Major themes in this episode include the interplay of Mormonism and lesbianism, and recovering from guilt and shame from rejecting childhood teachings.

Here are some of the great moments she shared with us:

  • 7:00 – As a teenager, having to “confess” all sexual activity and thoughts to an older male bishop
  • 12:00 – How consent is impacted when alcohol is involved
  • 14:00 – Shelly’s earliest experience of same-sex attraction
  • 17:30 – Opening to curiosity around lesbianism while letting go of the disgust she had been taught
  • 20:00 – The difference in intimacy shared between women and men
  • 28:00 – Shelly’s first gay experience
  • 39:00 – How Shelly talks to her seven children about sex now that they are out of the Mormon church

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Host – Leah Carey (Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, email)

Editor – Gretchen Kilby

Music by – Nazar Rybak

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