Davina Bookbinder is a 33-year-old, transgender woman who describes herself as white, Jewish, queer, polyamorous and actively dating.
Major themes in this episode include being transgender, discovering and navigating gender identity, and sex as a trans woman.
This episode is extra long because there's just SOOOO much great material!
Davina is a good friend and she and I have had long conversations about gender in general and her gender in particular. It is because she and I have developed a foundation of trust that I'm able to ask questions that we wouldn't normally ask. PLEASE KNOW that many of the questions I ask in this interview are NOT questions that are appropriate to ask a trans person in regular conversation. But that's true of all the conversations on this show, right?!? I ask deeply personal questions that you would never think to ask someone at a dinner party. The problem for trans people is that there is such curiosity around their bodies and their genitals that people end up believing they're allowed to ask those questions at the dinner party.
So consider this your opportunity to listen in on the questions you WISH you could ask - yes, we talk about having sex as a trans person and how it works. Yes, we talk about the current state of her genitals and how she likes them to be interacted with. And yes, we talk about the intersection of mental health and being transgender.
Many, many thanks to Davina for showing up and being willing to have this conversation. I love you, girl!
Here are some of the great moments she shared with us:
The Quick 5:
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Davina is also the Programming Director for Sex Positive Portland.
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Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Music by – Nazar Rybak