Girl Boner Radio
Girl Boner Radio
Jan 19, 2021
7 Sex Habits to Leave Behind
Play • 19 min

Have you sent intentions for 2021? How about sexual intentions? As we make our way into a new year and reflect on what hasn’t worked so well in the past, we shan't forget our sex lives!

 

A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:

 

  • A common lube mistake to avoid
  • A type of harmful self-talk that’s super easy to fall into
  • What to do when you feel uncomfortable during sex
  • Which fantasies to speak up about (and ways to do so)
  • Ways to feel more sex-inclined, if or when you wish to
  • More!

 

Check out the Sexy Self-Care collection at The Pleasure Chest!

 

Save 25% on Dr. Megan’s Rekindle Desire program!

 

Support the show and get fun extras: patreon.com/girlboner

 

Brought to you a day early, in light of Inauguration Day on 1/20!

Produced and edited by August McLaughlin

 

Good Girls Talk About Sex
Good Girls Talk About Sex
Leah Carey
I think I had a crush on a woman - Coaching Caitlin
Leah shares a coaching session with client Caitlin to give us an in-depth experience of what coaching looks and feels like. Caitlin is divorced and currently in a friends-with-benefits heterosexual relationship. She and Leah had discussed fantasies and BDSM in previous private sessions; here they focus on Caitlin’s new (or perhaps not new?) sexual attraction to women, and how she might begin to explore that in real life. Bookmark moments: * 2:15 - Leah explains what coaching does—and doesn’t—involve. She introduces Caitlin, the coach-ee! * 4:44 - Caitlin catches Leah up on a big realization she’s had since their last coaching sessions: she’s sexually curious about women too. * 10:21 - Leah helps Caitlin hone in on whether her attraction to women is a leftover effect of our hyper-sexualized-female-form-loving culture, or a deeper sexual attraction. * 14:40 - The conversation turns to fantasies; they’re a great way to safely explore new thoughts and desires. Erotica is another. * 16:51 - What “pansexual” means. * 19:31 - Dating women can feel new to women. Leah assures Caitlin that the rules are basically the same: “Don’t be an asshole.” Also, exploring sex with a new-to-you gender can feel like a second puberty. * 23:34 - When navigating COVID risks with dating apps, be clear up front about your risk tolerance and boundaries. * 26:55 - There are some sensitivities to know about for women who are new to dating women. Leah talks about bi vs lesbian. Also, there’s a difference between sexual attraction and romantic attraction. * 33:40 - Threesomes can be a fun way to try sex with a woman, if approached with sensitivity. Leah recommends more resources. * 36:39 - They talk about how to find someone who wants to explore with you on the dating apps. * 40:30 - Leah talks more about what coaching looks and feels like, in solo and group options. Resources mentioned: * Erotica collections – I recommend the collections edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel * Literotica – A site featuring erotica submitted by primarily amateur writers. I love it because no matter what your interest or fetish is, someone is writing about it here. Because it’s all amateur, though, you may have to wade through a bunch of stories that are terribly written before you hit on one that tickles your fancy! Start by searching the tags for topics that interest you - https://tags.literotica.com (be aware that this site does show ads from porn sites so it is NSFW, but the pictures are generally not X-rated) Join me on Patreon: As of July 2020, all Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are now FREE! They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at www.ratethispodcast.com/goodgirls Have a questions or comment - Leave a voicemail for Leah at 720-GOOD-SEX (720-466-3739) - this is a voicemail-only line, so I promise you won't have to talk to someone in person! Be a guest on the show - I'd love to talk with you! Fill out the form at www.leahcarey.com/guest FOLLOW LEAH: Instagram - www.instagram.com/goodgirlstalk Private Facebook Group - www.facebook.com/groups/goodgirlstalk YouTube - www.youtube.com/goodgirlstalk Leah's website - www.leahcarey.com Podcast website - www.goodgirlstalk.com WORK WITH LEAH: Learn about coaching with Leah - www.leahcarey.com/coaching Join a PJ Party for Grown Ups - www.leahcarey.com/pjparty EPISODE CREDITS: Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak
45 min
My Orgasmic Life
My Orgasmic Life
Gaia Morrissette
The Art Of Hair Pulling- 0n My Orgasmic Life Podcast
My Orgasmic Life Podcast  with Holistic Sexual Wellness Specialist , Gaia Morrissette on EP. 156 aka Empress Gaia is talking all about the art of hair pulling or as she likes to say Hair Squeezing.      Content Warning : Swearing, Laughter, BDSM, Kink, Hair Pulling, Power Exchange, Primal Sexual Expression    Gaia Covers on today show:    *What is hair pulling? *Why is good hair pulling an advanced sexual skill? *When is the right time to pull out the hair squeeze aka hair pull? *Knowing when and how to use the hair pull to maxim the sexual arousal response in your love(s) *Using hair pulling in power exchange and BDSM *How to use the hair pull in sensual love making sexual experience?  ****  Don’t forget to Tip your Host! Gaia is asking for support to help her pay for the overhead costs of running this show. For as little as $5 come support, play and interact with her in a deeper way. Become a Patron and receive all sorts of special privileges and bonus content  https://www.patreon.com/myorgasmiclife…    *******To keep exploring and expanding your learning with online courses visit  https://succulent-living.teachable.com/    *****BDSM 101- Self Study Course - https://succulent-living.teachable.com/p/bdsm-kink-101-guided-7-week-online-course  *****Exclusive and Private BDSM Membership Program monthly blended learning and watching and interaction of BDSM education- https://gaiamorrissette.com/empressgaia/empress-gaia-exclusive-bdsm-membership-program/    *** Finding True Love(s) Online Group Program- https://succulent-living.teachable.com/p/manifest-your-dream-relationship-s    *** Call all coaches,healers, therapists and anyone who works with people that might have trauma come check out this Professional Trauma Recovery Training. https://succulent-living.teachable.com/p/trauma-recovery-professional-training-level-1    Join “My Orgasmic Life“ Podcast  on Spreaker or Spotify or Apple podcast or Google Podcast  or iHeartRadio or on your favourite podcast platform. You can also listen on my website https://gaiamorrissette.com/category/my-orgasmic-life-podcast/  or download my new My Orgasmic Life App from google play store    Gaia Morrissette offers so many awesome ways to help you have an amazing pleasure filled orgasmic life. Gaia many expertise in the areas of sex, relationships, love, BDSM, trauma healing come visit  www.gaiamorrissette.com to find the right fit for you.   Come frolic with Gaia on Social Media under Gaia Morrissette  Looking to buy some toys visit “Come As You Are” my favourite high quality sex toy online store. https://www.comeasyouare.com?aff=succulentliving  Learn more about Gaia Morrissette: Holistic Sexual Wellness Specialist, Gaia Morrissette believes the keys to a happy, healthy, wealthy, magical  and EPIC orgasmic life is ; Sexual Wellness, Embracing the human experience and releasing fear, shame , guilt and self-loathing.  Gaia supports people living with pleasure through Holistic Sexual Wellness, Trauma Recovery. She is also a BDSM Wellness expert, High Priestess and Pro-Dominatrix. For over 12 years she has been a renowned international speaker, trainer, facilitator, podcaster and coach who makes the world a happier, safer and sexier place for us all. Gaia is the founder of SucculentLiving.com, Empressgaia.com & Succulent living Online Education. Her education and training consist of, sexology, trauma recovery, life coaching, tantra training, sex coaching, and lots of practice in the areas of play, healing, and exploring Sponsored by Tickle.Life   Tickle.Life is An inclusive content led market space for people and professionals to discover, connect and learn everything around sexual well being https://tickle.life/  Don't forget to come check out Tickle.Life Podcast that Gaia is the fabulous host of https://tickle.life/podcasts/tickle-life-podcast/    To be guest on Tickle.life podcast https://www.tickle.life/tickle-life-podcast/overview/
23 min
Eat. Play. Sex.
Eat. Play. Sex.
Dr. Cat Meyer
Episode 94: Radical Authenticity in Dating, Lessons in Play, + Online Dating Profiles as Self-Marketing with Connell Barrett
Could your dating profile be the reason you aren’t scoring dates? Or maybe you’re under the impression that you have to present as “alpha” or “extraverted” in order to be desirable. Connell Barrett breaks our social programming with why radical authenticity is more attractive + successful in creating the love life you want. He gives us tips on how we can step into a more playful attitude + improve our confidence, even if there’s fear. In this episode you will hear: * Why your online dating profile sucks + how to step it up through a marketing perspective * How authenticity can be a powerful tool for “scoring the date” (and why we believe it won’t) * Strategies for getting out of the “not enough” trap + rebuilding your self-confidence * Overcoming the fear of rejection + how changing your relationship to rejection can make you more invincible * Stepping into “playfulness” for greater attraction + changing the game of dating * Mental hacks to keep you SANE in the dating world * The myth of the “alpha male” + how this belief is hurting our outcome in dating * What Dr Cat believes is the HOTTEST statement one could make * Connell’s personal experiences around dating + why taking a risk to be bold + “just going for what you want” is the sexiest Connell Barrett even answers some of our audience questions: * Tips on upgrading your experience on the dating apps + even meeting people outside of them * Get out of the FRIENDZONE THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUEST Dating coach Connell Barrett has one mission: help men defeat loneliness and attract their soulmates, as their most authentic, confident selves. The founder of Dating Transformation and a coach with The League dating app, Connell spent years training with the world’s best relationship and self-development experts. Connell’s next project? Showing men a new way to date with his forthcoming book, _Dating Sucks But You Don’t_, the complete dating guide for men in the #MeToo era, to be published in May by Simon & Schuster. Find out more about him here: _https://datingtransformation.com_ Follow Connell on instagram @datingtransformation or join his facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtobeyourbestself/ Links from the show: Uberlube: Use code EPS10 for 10% off my favorite silky lube. Get a free sampler pack of LMNT electrolyte drink packets: _drinklmnt.com/DRCAT_ Join us February 21st 2021 for my workshop with Adam Roa: Creating Chemistry Get your ticket here: _https://thecreatecommunity.com/collections/event-tickets/products/creating-chemistry_ Want more? Connect with your body + access your inner sex kitten: _https://sexloveyoga.mykajabi.com/skf_ Check out SexLoveYoga.com and EatPlaySex.com for more juicy articles, guides, erotic audio stories, + more! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/eatplaysex/message
57 min
The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice
The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice
Sean Jameson
#47 How To Have Sex Every Day with Caitlin & Michael Doemner
Today on the podcast we welcome Caitlin and Michael Doemner, authors of Sex Every Day, who are sharing with us some hands-on tips for enjoying sexual intimacy on a daily basis, regardless of busy schedules, kids and periods.   They talk about their three-step strategy for practicing frequent intimacy, including how you can communicate your sexual desires in a fun way and what you can do to ensure that both you and your partner are always satisfied. Before you think all of this is unattainable for you as a parent of young kids, hang on a minute! They have four kids of their own and advise you on overcoming the logistics of having regular sex with a house full of small children.   Key Points From This Episode   * The interesting story of how Caitlin and Michael got together. * Why sleeping naked is such a natural and effective way to restore intimacy in a relationship. * How the menu metaphor can be used to communicate and express sexual needs. * The importance of being open to both give and receive. * What you can do to maintain intimacy with your partner throughout the day. * A quick review of the five love languages and what they each entail. * Why it is important for couples to prioritize a woman’s pleasure. * What couples with kids can practically do to preserve their intimacy and privacy. * Why a period should not be stopping you from giving and receiving uninterrupted pleasure. * And much more!   Tweetables   “It's really hard to be angry with somebody when you're laying full body contact naked with them and in bed.” [0:04:49]   “The intimacy and the passion, it doesn’t have to be intercourse …there's a lot of different ways that we can please our partners.” [0:19:45]   Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode   Bad Girls Bible Newsletter — https://badgirlsbible.com/newsletter Sex Every Day: How to Prioritize Pleasure in your Marriage — http://www.lulu.com/shop/michael-and-caitlin-doemner/sex-every-day-how-to-prioritize-pleasure-in-your-marriage/hardcover/product-23974387.html The Five Love Languages on Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X Pussy: A Reclamation on Amazon — https://www.amazon.com/Pussy-Reclamation-Regena-Thomashauer/dp/1401950264/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?keywords=pussy%3A+a+reclamation&qid=1555401985&s=books&sr=1-1-fkmrnull Sex Every Day Website — https://www.sexeverydaybook.com/homepage25989259 Sex Every Day on Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/QuotidianCoitus/
25 min
Wanderlust Swingers - Swinging Lifestyle
Wanderlust Swingers - Swinging Lifestyle
C And D
Soft Swap Swinging Lifestyle
There are many ways to approach the swinging lifestyle and one of the playstyles that some couples have is soft swap. Soft Swap Swingers are people too! In this episode we interview a fantastic couple who identify as soft swap swingers as their preferred swinging play style. We share details about navigating the boundaries conversation, how to share your preferred swinger play style and what being a soft swap swinging couple means to them. Featured in this episode * Mr and Mrs RedNReady - Twitter Mentioned in this episode * Monogamish Marriage Blog "My Wife Wants a Girlfriend" * Swingers Help "20% of Swingers prefer soft swap" Join in as we explore being a soft swap swinging couple who enjoy pushing their boundaries in their own sexy sensual way. We would love you to consider supporting us on Patreon from only $1 a month & you’ll get access to exclusive content and live podcasts. Join us www.patreon.com/swingingdownunder Swinging Lifestyle Events * Join us in Miami for our Hotel Takeover * Head to Naughty In Nawlins with us and join the tribe Head to our website for videos, blogs, podcasts, newsletters and swinging lifestyle resources. Love, Peace and Respect C&D We are a swinging lifestyle podcast, we talk about sex, being a hotwife and non-monogamy, please ensure you are of legal age to be listening to our sexy stories. If you’re interested in learning more about the swinging and hotwifing lifestyle join us on our sexy swinger hotwife podcast. We share information our personal experiences and journey, swinger event, swinging dating sites, reviews for swingers resorts and more.
48 min
Swinger Diaries
Swinger Diaries
Paige and Penn
SD 96 Our Final Goodbye
For every beginning there is and end, even in podcasting. Recording this show has been an awesome adventure that has totally enriched our lives. After all the time and energy we've invested over the years, we could not be more proud of the Swinger Diaries Podcast. In this episode, we not only say our last goodbyes but shamelessly take a bow by reading some of the heartwarming messages that listeners wrote to us relaying their stories, thank you’s and compliments. We are floored by the outpouring of support and well-wishes and we’re honored to know that we've affected, and indirectly improved, so many lives. As proud as we are that the show has helped so many listeners, we are equally touched by the comments sent in by other content creators. Its absolutely humbling to hear the way our podcast seems to have had an impact on the genre. Thank you all for listening. Its been a true privilege to be ambassadors of a lifestyle that has given so much to us. Its been an complete joy to remember our stories, and a deep honor to be able to “pay it forward to the all the curious, skeptical and nervous future swingers out there”. We hope we've done justice to this amazing lifestyle but in the end, this journey is, at its core, about us and our relationship so more than anything, the message we hope our diary leaves with you is that this lifestyle has immeasurably benefited our relationship. More than ever we are, desperately, hopelessly, passionately, and deeply in love with each other. Thank you for listening. We hope to meet you all someday as we continue to explore and enjoy this fascinating, challenging, wonder-filled, exhilarating, swinging lifestyle. -Penn and Paige
54 min
Better Sex
Better Sex
Jessa Zimmerman
166: Communicating Sexual Desires and Boundaries – Yael Rosenstock Gonzalez
Communicating desires and boundaries In this episode, Yael Rosenstock Gonzalez talks all about how to understand and communicate your own desires and boundaries to your partner. Today’s topic of discussion lines up with the four pillars of Intimacy with Ease Method to help you have the best sex of your life! We hear talks of red flags, tips on how to work with your partner around these aspects, and most importantly, real life applications. Is it One conversation? Communicating desires and boundaries are put together in a conversation because when people are engaged in making sure everyone is having the best time possible, criminalised behavior is unlikely. While sharing her views, Yael points out the stigma around the conversation of consent and sexual assault. Why is communication so important? It’s important to understand our method of communication. Yael tells people to reflect on how they communicate their sexual or non-sexual needs. While communication could mostly be verbal, it’s important to recognize the meaning of the cues you give off and to make sure people in your life are aware of it. It avoids unclear messages and conflict. Reasons why people struggle communicating about sex Yael says there are several reason why someone struggles communicating about sex. It could be revealed when you ask yourself questions of who and why. Your anxiousness could be the result of a sex taboo, shame around your own pleasure, or the expectation of knowing what’s wrong in your sexual relationship without any proper communication with your partner. For some people with insecurity, Yael advices to make communication sexy by asking what you want and by validating your partner during sex. And for someone with shame around pleasure, you should question the series of incidents like getting caught that resulted in it. You become confident in communicating about sex by undoing these patterns. Myths around sexual communication Yael breaks down some of the myths around sexual communication. People overemphasize penetration during sex. People believe sex is enjoyable only with penetration and they neglect oral sex. For a lot of people arousal happens before the penetration and it’s important to be in tune with your own arousal to effectively communicate it with your partner. Yael also breaks down myths around sexual chemistry. People assume their partner would just know what they want because of the sexual chemistry they both have. While it could be true for some people, Yael says it’s mostly communication and putting in the work that’s important. Communicating your desires doesn’t mean there’s no chemistry. Yael also talks about instances where people mistake their lack of sexual chemistry or interest as being asexual when in reality, it could mean either that they are asexual or that they didn’t find the right partner or gender. It’s important to be aware of your own sexual desires to be able to communicate effectively. Communication about boundaries before or during sex? Yael advices people who experienced sexual violence or trauma to be aware of some of the things that act as triggers, keeping in mind that triggers may change. In those instances, it’s advisable to talk about your boundaries with your partner before sex to avoid activating these triggers. She also urges people to communicate their needs and tell them how their partner can help them create a safe space. You can also have a conversation before sex about things you want to try or things you might want to try and things that you don’t want to try. How does respecting these boundaries look like? When you have a trigger or feel uncomfortable doing something, your partner should be supportive in accepting you. They should be patient to wait and listen when you’re ready to talk about it and not put blame on you. This is how respecting boundaries looks like Yael’s view. Reasons why people don’t respond well to boundaries Yael believes some people don’t respond well in these situations because of either being caught off guard or because of their surfacing insecurity and doubts. There are also instances where people take it as a “challenge to teach you,” thinking it will help you overcome what makes you uncomfortable. While Yael says shifts may occur, it’s likely to occur in a supportive environment rather than to occur by force. Yael also brings up an interesting reason where people are unsupportive because they’re missing out on something they enjoy. Yael gives a solution for this that she says could come as unpopular among people is to seek those things outside the relationship after having a clear conversation and make an ethical and consensual decision. Sometimes a partner could feel like an abuser when in these situations. And a lot of times people let their partner do things they’re uncomfortable with to avoid making them feel like a violator. In this situation, it’s best to take a break before deciding whether or not to have a conversation. What to do when someone doesn’t respect your boundaries? Yael shares some of the red flags to recognize when someone doesn’t respect your boundaries like putting the blame on you, pushing you and shaming you. When your boundaries are not respected, it’s time to walk away. Yael asks people to re-evaluate the value of that person in your life and re-evaluate the reasons you’re keeping them around. She points out the reality of how we’re not taught to make boundaries or talk about how a healthy relationship looks like. It’s one of the reasons why many people don’t recognize a non-physical unhealthy relationship. Finally, Yael leaves us with a thought provoking fact that boundaries are not always meant to be physical. Boundaries can also be made for time, space and the emotional energy you spend. She says boundaries can be set to things like letting people share their emotions to setting a time and place to send and receive nudes. Resources and Links: Website: https://sexpositiveyou.com/ Website: https://www.yaelrosenstock.com/ Book – An Intro-Guide to a Sex Positive You: Lessons, Tales, and Tips https://sexpositiveyou.com/#book Courses: https://sexpositiveyou.com/#workwithme Instagram: @yaelthesexgeek Facebook: @YaeltheSexGeek Twitter: @yaelthesexgeek More info: Training video – https://jessazimmerman.mykajabi.com/video-choice Sex Health Quiz – https://www.sexhealthquiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywitheasemethod.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: How to help your partner want more sex without making them feel pressured or obligated: https://intimacywithease.com/free-webinar Better Sex with Jessa Zimmerman https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/better-sex/ Source: https://businessinnovatorsradio.com/166-communicating-sexual-desires-and-boundaries-yael-rosenstock-gonzalez
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