Apr 27, 2022
寫性給我 #95 想自由的肉桂捲:知道自慰是正常的,但心中的罪惡感還是存在,為什麼我會有這種感覺呢?
我也曾覺得自己很髒~現在有時候還是會覺得,雖然頻率越來越少,或是罪惡感沒有那麼大了,但也不是完全消逝。
像我之前曾寫在社群的,我覺得要愛自己對我來說有點太難了,先練習不恨自己。
比起「如何去不產生罪惡感」,我其實很喜歡肉桂捲的提問方向,先問為什麼會有這樣的感受。
這集提到的我很喜歡的作家 Megan Nolan ,該篇文章 I Get Off on Dominating Women. Can I Still Be an Ally?
“ When I started to think about why I like what I like, I came to think maybe it all began because being submissive allowed me to override the basic Catholic schoolgirl shame of having sex at all. If I was being bossed around and physically controlled, it worked to alleviate my own responsibility for what I wanted to do, the fact that I wanted to do it so badly. This isn’t the whole reason why I like it, of course. ”
“Be concerned about the eroticization of female helplessness which surrounds us culturally, but go home and do what you like in bed with a willing partner.”
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