Let's Talk About Grief With Anne
Anne DeButte
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Grief is messy. It's the opposite of linear. It can be dark and wacky, lonely or not, love-filled or seemingly lacking - but it is so very alive. No two people experience this process in quite the same way. These Podcasts are conversation starters for dealing with dying, death and grief part therapy and part storytelling in disguise because they'll guide you towards shedding a little more insight on the matter - an insightful guide to life's many losses. Struggling? Please connect anne@understandinggrief.com https://www.understandinggrief.com
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May 25, 2022
Suicide - How One Parent Handled the Loss of Their Son?
"Grief is love" was the belief that helped my guest Ivan Maisel work through the loss of his son Max.
Unfortunately, suicide still has so much uncomfortableness and stigma surrounding out. How do you remain open to sharing with family and friends that your child died by suicide? Those were decisions, the family made and Ivan speaks about so candidly in our interview.
How do friends and family members comfort each other and what to say that may be helpful? In Ivan's book "I keep Trying to Catch his Eye" he talks about what brought him comfort and what helped him. You can read more here https://amzn.to/3t4Y1yG
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Apr 25, 2022
A Lifestyle Change Began with a Sister's Cancer Diagnosis
David Richman made a promise to his sister June that he'd run the track to support her team raise funds for cancer care. His daughter was concerned that he smoked. These two events changed his life.
He continues to run marathons, and bike long distances raising funds for cancer awareness, research and care. He rode 5,000 miles from California, Florida to New York to meet with those who contributed to the book by sharing their cancer journey.
David's desire for Cycles of Life is to help others become more aware of the trauma cancer patients face, and how to feel comfortable supporting them by starting those difficult conversations.
You can find out more about David's story at https://david-richman.com
and more about his new book Cycles of Life https://cycleoflives.org
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Mar 26, 2022
How Do You Move Through Grief & Live the Life You Chose?
Grief is very patient, chose not to deal with it and grief fades into the background waiting patiently. Some life events may happen that cause you to finally face it as my guest Sherrie Dunlevy did.
Through her life experiences, no matter how many deaths and losses she has experienced, she firmly believes that it's a choice to live life as a victim or to find a way for healing to occur.
Although each loss was different she knew if she allowed herself to grieve fully she'd find her way back to her life, more resilient and compassionate than before.
Sherrie believes in service and helping others. Her book "How can I Help?" Your go-to guide for helping loved ones. https://amzn.to/3qC1WBW or for a signed copy.
https://www. graduating grief.com
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Feb 5, 2022
Finding Yourself After Sibling Loss and Living Life Fully
Life as we know it changes with death but when a sibling dies, the survivor often has to navigate these changes alone. Society doesn't recognize their need to grieve and will often ask "how their parents are doing?" Leaving them feeling their grief isn't as important, they aren't supported in the same way.
Often surviving siblings feel responsible for supporting their parents and doing all they can, and they push their grief aside.
Sibling loss and grief is every bit real, please don't ignore them but ask how they are doing?
What helps is openly communicating and speaking about the death as a family. This creates comfort and connection for all.
To discover the books we mentioned in the show - see links below
https://zandersprague.com/
https://amzn.to/3oBw6nW
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Dec 9, 2021
When Science & Spirituality Come Together a New Perspective of Death & Grief is Born
People who have lost loved ones may find themselves struggling with how best to move forward when they cannot bring themselves or those left behind go on living as if nothing happened. It is often hard to fully participate when your heart is heavy. In this episode, you'll discover how Interfaith Minister Patty Furino helped to change a Professor's belief about death and grieving.
After the loss of his daughter, my guest Dave Roberts, a Professor of Psychology talks about walking the life of a grieving father. He was going through the motions but was he thriving? It was meeting Patty at a workshop that brought them together that helped him change his perspective and look at his grief differently.
This meeting and their relationship would continue in ways that would have Dave question his beliefs, with the help of Patty and his daughter's guidance they were able to reframe his thinking. It was a relationship that helped both of them grow in ways they couldn't imagine.
When the Psychology Professor Met the Minister. You can find out more here:
When The Psychology Professor Met The Minister
https://psychologyprofessorandminister.com
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Nov 8, 2021
Turning a Father's Pain into Purpose and Perspective
When a child dies, it's a parent's worse nightmare. It's death out of turn they say. Dave was ecstatic when his baby daughter was born and her death would ultimately shatter his world.
My guest David Roberts, a psychology professor shares in the interview, he didn't have a burning desire to teach about death, dying and loss, it was something he needed to do as the result of his daughter's death.
He talks about how his life further changed when he met an interfaith minister who helped him reframe his thinking and introduced him to spirituality. Giving him a deeper connection with his daughter that would help to transform his grief.
From an addictions councillor to an author and savvy social media user. He has found peace, loves and lives life to the fullest.
David has co-authored a book with Patty Furino - When the Professor met the Minister
For more information: psychologyprofessorandminister.com
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Nov 3, 2021
Creating an Incredible Life after Tragedy and Loss - Interview with Artist & Author Dhyanis
In the interview, we learn the circumstances that took Dhanyis an artist, costume designer and belly-dancer performing with a small troupe of women to add Heartbreak to Happiness coaching and author of two books to her repertoire.
Dhyanis is also a wonderful storyteller, as you'll discover. She authentically shares her story with us about moving past her grief after a tragic loss and how to design an amazing life by following her heart. Certainly a life she could never have envisioned before.
She shares her story of coping with loss in an honest way that is inspiring and real. She will help you find hope if you're experiencing loss also.
You can learn more about Dhyanis Carniglia - https://movingpastgrief.com/
and discover her latest book Dancing Through Life - https://amzn.to/3q0QVuz
She says we can never go back to our old identity - Instead, use Grief to offer choices on how to find new ways to move and heal.
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Oct 11, 2021
Terminal Cancer - Alive Today Thanks to the Power of 3 Questions and Unshakable Faith
What do you do when your physician gives you devastating news, feel scared and quietly accept? Robb Hiller who is known for his talent in solving problems quietly went about how he could work through his chemo, grief and negative mood.
He discovered the power of asking himself questions. These questions he shared are so powerful they shifted how he was feeling and today he is alive and cancer-free. Astounding his physician. Yes, Robb did also have unshakable faith and the power of prayer to help him. He feels all this contributed to his recovery back to health.
He has written a book to help others facing adversity to find hope - The Power of 3: Beat Adversity, Find Authentic Purpose and Live a Better Life. Find more about this book here
https://www.robbhiller.com
Please join us to listen to Robb's journey as he shares from the heart, I felt honoured to interview him on zoom. I got to see first-hand just how well he looks.
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Sep 16, 2021
Living the Best Life Possible in the Time Remaining
Overcoming obstacles became a way of life and didn't stop this couple from living each moment in the present, together, with love and joy.
What would you do, if your passion was to become a doctor and you were told you had cancer? Give it all up or deal with each obstacle as it came up?
Meet Dr Desiree Pardi, a palliative care physician who just wasn't ready to die. She did everything possible to stay alive. She lived with her diagnosis, despite having chemo treatments on a Friday was back at work on Monday to be with her patients.
Her husband Robert Pardi, shares their story. Desiree never did discover how ill she was, her husband only shared the next steps to take. While some may question was this denial in not wanting to know? Listen to Robert's story as he shares their journey.
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Sep 6, 2021
Benefits of Having an Adaptive Leadership Style When Dealing with Grief at Work
Discover for yourself which leadership style will serve you best when dealing with employees grief and how vulnerability is a strength.
There are many other reasons an employee may be grieving and it isn't always due to a death. Workplaces themselves can create grief through downsizing and restructuring.
Learn about the 3 C's of Leadership, taught and used by the US Marines but sadly not in business - why we wonder?
Anthony Casablanca, co-author of Dying Art of Leadership shares examples of why it's important and why leaders should care.
To learn more about GriefLeaders and training for your company
https://griefleaders.com
To find out more about the book The Dying Art of Leadership
https://griefleaders.com/who-we-are/about-the-book/
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Aug 25, 2021
Lessoning The Impact of Race on Mental Health & Wellbeing & Why Employers Should Care
Despite everyone's desire to feel safe and secure at work, for many Black, Indigenous and People of Color (BIPOC), this isn't always the case. This episode explores some reasons why this has transpired against a backdrop of systemic racial issues faced by US citizens.
For leaders who want to be compassionate and supportive, it may help them understand the psychological impact of not feeling safe or belonging. This is especially important for those experiencing generational trauma as we'll also discuss some ways employers can be supportive to their employees of Race.
My Guest Abby Wen Wu is a consultant to the Center for Workplace Mental heath and helps progressive organizations in creating workplace safety and belonging by bridging racial divides.
To connect online to Abby here's the link:
https://www.abbywenwu.com
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Aug 17, 2021
How do you Grieve the Loss of one Child and Prepare for Birth 4 Weeks Later?
The death of a child has to be a parent's worst nightmare. The couple had two boys and the birth of their daughter was such a joy to them, she was their little princess.
The couple were looking forward to welcoming their 4th child when 4 weeks before the birth, their world was rocked by the unimaginable.
This is a mother's journey into grief and trauma and how she worked her way back to be the mother she is today to her children.
Megan is herself a grief coach and coaches other mothers through child loss. You can find out more about her work and her Podcast: Stop Talking and Start Feeling
https://www.meganhillukka.com
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Jul 20, 2021
Finding Meaning, Purpose & Peace After Your World is Shattered
Aurora Winter's life changed instantly when her husband died suddenly leaving their dreams for their future life together as a family shattered.
You will learn how she herself "failed" at grief and why Aurora is passionate about helping others not stay stuck for 5-8 yrs because of not knowing what to do. She'd later go on to create the Grief Coach Academy, the first of its kind to empower others to find their way.
How do you tell your children about death and what do you say? Aurora speaks about how she navigated their young son, through the funeral and in helping him understand why daddy wasn't coming back.
Discover the healing powers of journaling and how her book Heartbreak to Happiness was created from her journal notes.
Learn how dreams can bring understanding, comfort even and then acceptance.
Be coached by Aurora as she describes the PEACE method and how you can find peace from your pain in 30 minutes.
Aurora is a business women & entrepreneur who has successfully launched…
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Jul 5, 2021
Grief in the Workplace What Business & Leaders Need to Know
There have been so many deaths and losses during this Covid time, while many are grieving their morning commute and the disruptions of their familiar routines.
There are others who have lost loved ones and struggle with unattended grief because they didn't get an opportunity for final goodbyes nor have any support during that difficult period.
During difficult times like this, it's important not just as individuals but also as communities and workplaces to come together. There has been so much death and loss which means everyone needs some kindness and a listening ear. It's time to connect to one another through our humanity & certainly workplaces can help.
The best way to help a grieving person is by being there for them. For Businesses and Leaders, it's important that they recognize and value their employees and be understanding towards their needs during difficult times so they can get back on track with being productive.
Here's how you can reach Melissa www.wholepersonconvers…
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Jun 19, 2021
Experiences of Loss & a Legacy of Love
Imagine looking forward to Mother's day and having to go through the day with no baby in your arms? Having experienced child loss herself, Catherine was able to view grief a little differently when her mother died.
Sometimes when challenging times or losses are experienced in our lives, it can be hard to find meaning in them. Years later, Catherine had a dream in which a vision of a book she was to write appeared, in a way it felt like a mission from God. This has become her purpose and passion.
In her book, Creating a Legacy of Love: A Prep Guide for You When Your Loved One Is No Longer There to Ask. Catherine shares the wisdom she learned from experiencing loss herself. This is more than just a guide; it's an opportunity to build memories that last far beyond time and space with those you love best.
https://www.createalegacyoflove.com
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May 30, 2021
Dealing with Death and Loss at 15, Finding Her Way and Having Fun with God
Martika Whylly, talks openly about her mom's death by suicide. Her own unsuccessful attempt and how the trajectory of her life changed when she could see her own words to God came to pass. Instead of seeing herself as a victim, she chose to become a hero in her own life and now helps others find their way through her Grief Counselling.
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May 2, 2021
Meet Larry & Gayle a couple newly in love, courageously lived life until Gayle's cancer returned
126 Days, 11 mins, is Larry's latest book and his legacy to Gayle. It's their love story of how they met, each in their mid-60's. It's a story about trusting life and be willing to walk the cancer journey with another. Larry shares openly about his love and respect for Gayle who loved life, she was an artist, loved nature and found joy and pleasure in the Argentine Tango.
It's about saying Yes to the heart when logic is saying No but going ahead anyway, knowing it was meant to be.
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Mar 21, 2021
How do you deal with grief that's not your own & how can you tell?
Joining me on the show is Johanna Lynne, the founder of The Family Imprint Institute which is a Science telling us that our biography becomes our biology.
Your family lives on within you – think of it as your emotional inheritance – and these imprints continue to influence you.
Johanna provides solutions for the emotional patterns we all inherit from our families. She works with individuals, groups and offers training if interested at The Family Institute. https://johannalynn.ca/
In this episode, you'll learn more about this science as well as how past family trauma lives on. We'll delve into how you can resolve complicated relationships with someone who has died. Also how to manage your grief when someone you love is ill and dying
When someone's grieving, often unresolved grief from their past will surface for healing. Is it possible for them to be grieving ancestral loss also and how would a person know
The good news about epigenetics is that you can release how you hold the…
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Feb 26, 2021
Transitioning from this life to next - We're Never Alone
The intent of this interview with my guest Julie Ryan, Psychic & Medical Intuitive is to help lessen the fear we as a Society have around dying and death and begin to understand and see them differently. Her books Angelic Attendants: What Really Happens As We Transition From This Life Into the Next; Angel Messages for Kids and Angel Messages for Dogs have been written to help us.
You'll get to meet Pope Clement and his importance in her life and learn how Julie, an inventor, entrepreneur learned how to be a psychic and medical intuitive 25 yrs ago and now uses these skills to help others with the many challenges we face in life.
Hear her talk about the 12 phases of transition and listen to her explanation of the process a person experiences after they die. During what is normally an incredibly heart-wrenching time, families almost always experience profound comfort once Julie describes what’s happening from the perspective of the spirit world.
Now for any of our listeners, Julie h…
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Feb 2, 2021
The New Unwelcome Conversation To Save You Additional Grief
Joanne Ready a retired registered nurse who now volunteers with Dying with Dignity as an independent witness for MAID (medical assistance in dying).
The unwelcome conversation we're talking about is advance care planning. When you have this conversation while you're in good health not only gives you peace of mind, it releases your family from having to decide for you. You're also freeing them from additional grief of worrying if they did the right thing.
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Dec 1, 2020
Paul Denniston - Grief Yoga, Freeing Emotions, Moving Throug...
How looking for peace, Paul found compassion on a yoga mat and learned how grief can become stuck in the body and how movement can help us to move grief through. You'll discover for yourself as Paul describes several exercises for you to experience. Bonus you'll be shown the power of laughter and the feel good hormones it provides
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Nov 26, 2020
How Challenges are Opportunities to Grieve and Grow and are More About Our Soul's Journey
Learn how challenges are opportunities for learning. If we don't learn the lesson well if we run away or distract ourselves from our emotions and pain. Our soul will discover another way. It may be better to learn how to listen to the soul and what grief from the soul's perspective is teaching us about love and compassion.
My guest Christin had to learn the hard way before she began to listen. Now she helps others find their way through their soul's challenges to live life fully once more.
To discover or learn more about her.
Christin Bjergbakke
www.usherchanneler.com
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Nov 22, 2020
Margaret-Lorrie Beaton- A psychotherapist View on Grief, Cov...
Lorrie shares valuable insights on Grief during 2020. Support is so important but even more so now, everyone has experienced losses this year.
Drs. & nurses are grieving their patients.
Connect with Lorrie at Bereaved Families Ottawa BFO-ottawa.org or Glebe Psychotherapy: Ottawa Counselling and Psychotherapy www.glebetherapy.com
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Feb 13, 2020
Grief Dream, Healing & How to Remember Them with Dr. Joshua Black
Learn about grief dreams and healing, why some people have them and others don't. Negative and positive dreams and what you can do to remember your dreams.
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Jan 4, 2020
Reflections on Death, Dying Aging & Marriage
Alma was grieving the loss of her husband, Whiley. She also found her legally blind status upsetting as it held her back from enjoying the life she once had and added another level of loss to her grief. She shared with me she was looking into MAID (medical assistance in dying). Alma felt she had lived a full life and was ready to die. She obviously had thought this through and was at peace with her decision.
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Nov 11, 2019
You've Divorced Why the Need To Grieve When No one Died?
In a way that's true, it was, however, your dreams and hopes for a future life together of happily ever is what's died. You are grieving a huge loss. This is one of those disenfranchised griefs no one talks about because they don't know there's a need. You're not well supported and can feel so alone.
You feel as if your heart was ripped out, your emotions are all over the place and so is your behaviour. You can't settle, you're agitated, your furious, your sad, lonely even. You don't want to just go out and find someone else, you want the person you had.
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If you were betrayed and the promise you made to each other was broken, you may feel betrayed and rejected. Regardless of who was at fault, each of you will need to grieve what was. It is a much healthier way to deal with your emotions so you can move through and find a new relationship, one that lights you up again, you understand what and who you want to share your life moving forward.
This is a process, that Relationship Rebu…
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Jul 29, 2019
The Connection Between Addiction, Self Worth, & Grief with Sarah Roberts Getting Real
How Sarah's need for connection, to fit in led to addiction, her recovery through healthy food and her grief when her dad, her mentor, and supporter died. Sarah Roberts, a TV host, and producer speaks openly candidly and from the heart, about subjects we find hard to talk about and shy away from.
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May 23, 2019
Sometimes I Cry in the Shower - A Man's Perspective to Grief...
How one man's journey into grief created a Legacy one of continue service. Helping Business understand Grief and its affect to their bottom line
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Feb 16, 2019
Poems from Beyond - Liza Ferrara DeStefano
Liz Ferrara DeStefano found very quickly after the death of her father, to grieve in her own ways for her it was to create poetry. The words would come and the poems were born.
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Feb 4, 2019
Enter Stillness Meditation for Grief
For when you need a moment of respite in your day. Take time to get still and breathe
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Nov 29, 2018
Good Grief: It's Christmas Time
12 Tips to Help You Cope with your grief during the holidays
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Nov 28, 2018
D. Anthony Grief Recovery & Empowerment Coach
Grief isn't the link to your loved one. Grief is the link to your loss. Myths and thoughts may be keeping you stuck
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Oct 26, 2018
Louise Green - The Story of Twins
James & Thomas Stillbirth & Survivor and the family's life moving forward and thriving
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Oct 26, 2018
MS, Dying & Death - My Best Friend's Journey We Did Together
How Jane supported her best friend through her end of life transition, through her illness and her challenges they remained good friends until the end. Her friend visits her she says as butterflies
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Sep 19, 2018
Dr. Sarah Kerr, Death Doula
In this episode, you'll learn about
1. Soul Passages, Dr Sarah Kerr's death doula practice 1:1 clients, teaching & mentoring students
2. Helping others navigate illness, death and transition from a soul perspective
3. What brought Dr Kerr to become a death doula
Ritual Healing Practitioner, Sarah helps others navigate illness, death, or loss. She helps them with transitions and rituals for the families to help with their grief. How we've lost the capacity of having a healing funeral
For more information about Dr Kerr's work can be found at Soul Passages https://soulpassages.ca
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Sep 2, 2018
My Father's Wake Part II - Personal Death and Other's Grief
In this episode, you'll learn
1. Kevin talks about a personal death
2. His brother's death from cancer and the war and battle language used
3. Hear about his intrigue as a reporter regarding Ireland's troubles
Kevin Toolis talks about the interviews he conducted with the families affected. He describes himself these "dangerous gifts" and his ability to ask questions no one else had
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Sep 2, 2018
My Father's Wake Part 1 - Glimpses of Early Life, author Kevin Toolis
In this episode, you'll learn
1. How the Irish can Teach Us to Live, Love & Die
2. The author's early life and key moments that formed this memoir
3. His ability to be fully comfortable talking about death, a subject most shy away from
Kevin Toolis, the author writes “Death is a whisper in the Anglo-Saxon world,”
My intent is to turn this whisper into a conversation. Listen now as Kevin begins to share the events, people and places he weaves together in a rhythm that brings this book to life.
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Sep 2, 2018
My Father's Wake Part III - How the Irish Teach us to Live, Love & Die
Personal Death & Grief of Others Part III
What you'll learn
1. Hear about the old rites and rituals passed down through generation
2. The role women had in helping midwife the dying and preparing the body for burial
3. How keening women at a wake assisted grief for the family and community
The author suggests it's through learning about death from others and books such as My Father's Wake, that you'll begin to inoculate yourself as a way of being more comfortable around death
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Sep 2, 2018
Let's Talk About Grief with Anne
Introduction and Welcome
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