271- Time to Unplug? How Screen Time Impacts the ADHD Brain
1 hr 1 min

Research suggests that screen use impacts ADHD symptom severity at two distinct developmental stages — at younger ages and in the teen years. David Anderson, Ph.D., teaches actionable strategies to manage screen time at home and in school.

Hacking Your ADHD
Hacking Your ADHD
William Curb
Automating Your ADHD Life
One of the paradoxes of ADHD is how much work we can get done when we're interested in something... but then how little we get done when something is boring. Unfortunately in life there are a lot of things that are going to bore us. And this becomes especially true with those boring tasks we have to do over and over again. So this is where automation comes in - automation is simply something that accomplishes tasks for us without our intervention. Whether we know it or not, all of us already use a lot of automation in our lives already. We often don't think of simple things like setting an alarm as an automated process, but it's a way we can externalize a reminder that will go off with no other input from us. Today we're going to take a look at how automation can be helpful with ADHD, some of the ways that we can take advantage of automations and then go into some specific things we can look at automating. There was actually a lot to cover here so I'll be going into even more automations next week as well. Support me on Patreon Connect with me on: Facebook Twitter Instagram or ask me a question on my Contact Page Find the show note at HackingYourADHD.com/automation *This Episode's Top Tips* * Automation is a way for us to frontload our work so that we can save time in the future - it can be helpful for ADHD because it can reduce decision fatigue, reduces chances of us forgetting a step, and just saves us time. * When we're thinking about automating a process the first things we need to think about are how to systemize the task and then if we can reduce the number of steps it takes. Sometime during this process, we find that maybe we don't need to use automation but we still find a better way of doing the task. * We can use automation to help with accountability by setting up automations that will let our teammates know when we have (or haven't) done what we said we were going to do. This can be helpful because it takes the reporting process out of our hands. * There are a ton of things we can do around our house to automate our everyday tasks that will make our lives easier - from automatically locking the doors at night, to getting notifications that we left the garage door open, to getting a smart speaker to read out our daily schedule - our biggest limitation is usually just what we think is possible, so go explore some options.
19 min
Adult ADHD ADD Tips and Support
Adult ADHD ADD Tips and Support
Adult ADHD ADD Tips and Support
Adult ADHD ADD Tips and Support Podcast – Sunlight
Adult ADHD ADD Tips and Support Podcast - Sunlight. This podcast is an audio companion to the book "The Drummer and the Great Mountain - A Guidebook to Transforming Adult ADD / ADHD." In this episode, we'll discuss the "The Power of Sunlight". It turns out, getting enough sunlight is essential to reduce ADHD symptoms, improve sleep, ward off depression, and treat Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). We'll discuss scientific studies connecting lack of sunlight to increased ADHD symptoms, and a number of tools and tips to keep you functioning optimally during the winter months. Links Mentioned in this Episode: "Happy Lights" on Amazon Study: "Geographic variation in the prevalence of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder: the sunny perspective" Psychology Today: "Sunlight and ADHD" YouTube: "How to Treat Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)"   Don't see a player? Click this link to download the MP3 file. If you have an Apple device (iPhone/iPad), you can download the podcast (and subscribe) for free at this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/adult-adhd-add-tips-support/id988935339 Visit the podcast web page to listen to all 79 episodes: http://www.drummerandthegreatmountain.com/adult-adhd-add-podcast If you're enjoying the music on our podcast, be sure to visit Bahman's website to hear his entire catalog of albums! Photo by Kent Pilcher on Unsplash For more info, visit: http://www.DrummerAndTheGreatMountain.com
25 min
Overcoming Distractions-Thriving with ADHD, ADD
Overcoming Distractions-Thriving with ADHD, ADD
David A Greenwood
ADHD, self-awareness and daily life
ADHD coach Jeff Copper is back to discuss the topic of being more self-aware when you have ADHD. One of the most powerful tools and strategies when it comes to thriving with ADHD is the concept of being more self-aware. That involves knowing what we are good at, what we struggle with as well as our relationship with time, our executive functions, and other behaviors that come along with having ADHD. Dave and Jeff however start out their conversation discussing the current landscape when it comes to COVID 19 and adult ADHD. They briefly discuss what entrepreneurs and executives have been struggling with and some of the ways Jeff has coached those busy professionals to get a better handle on business and life during the pandemic. Jeff points out one particularly important factor at the beginning of the discussion. And that is many of us are looking to affirm that many things about us are true. We do not often look for things that make us uncomfortable and part of self-awareness is just that. It is looking inward to uncover the challenges we experienced. Jeff gives listeners what we would call his preflight checklist for maintaining self-awareness throughout the day. That includes asking yourself about what you are currently doing and if it is serving you well. When you say yes to something and make a commitment, ask yourself what you are saying no to and decide if it is worth it. Another part of self-awareness is understanding procrastination. Jeff recommends that when you get in this situation pause, take a step back and ask yourself what is hard about taking the next step. Also, ask yourself what you feel is unclear about the situation or the task at hand. Having clarity is an essential part of moving on tasks and productivity. Find Jeff Copper from DIG Coaching here: www.digcoaching.com
50 min
Attention Talk Radio
Attention Talk Radio
Attention Talk Radio
ADHD and Conflict between Beliefs and Self-Awareness
In simple terms how our mind is set up to think is a mindset. Mindsets are efficient ways to filter our world. The problem is mindsets often obstruct our ability to see the obvious and to gain self-awareness. In this episode of Attention Talk Radio, attention and ADHD coach Jeff Copper (www.digcoaching.com) talks with ADHD coach Andrew Avery (www.adhdtraction.com) to illustrate the conflict between beliefs and self-awareness by looking at the character Maria in the movie, "The Sound of Music." The goal is to share insights to open your mind to self-awareness, its power, and relate it to the ADHD experience to help you move forward. If you struggle with self -awareness, can’t seem to get your arms around your ADHD, or find you have a strong belief system, this is a show you won't want to miss.   Attention Talk Radio is the leading site for self-help Internet radio shows focusing on attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD), including managing symptoms of attention deficit disorder, adults with ADD, or adults who have children with ADHD. Attention Talk Radio, hosted by Jeff Copper, attention and ADHD coach, is designed to help adults and children (particularly those diagnosed with or impacted by attention deficit disorder or its symptoms) in life or business who are stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated. It will help adults and children get unstuck and moving forward by helping to open their minds and pay attention to what works.   Attention Talk Radio host Jeff Copper is an ADHD coach. To learn more about Jeff go to www.digcoaching.com.
31 min
The Psych Central Podcast: Mental Health Made Simple
The Psych Central Podcast: Mental Health Made Simple
Gabe Howard (A Psych Central Podcast)
Reframing Past Traumas
What is your life story? Do you feel like a victim of your circumstances? And if so, how does this affect your future? In today’s show, our guest James Sweigert, who struggled out of a traumatic childhood, shares how the power of his thoughts and the spoken word changed his life. Are you ready to make some edits to your life story? Tune in, and James will help you go from your head to your heart so you can win the game. For more information and a complete transcript, visit Podcast: Reframing Past Traumas. Guest Information for 'James Sweigert- Reframing Traumas' Podcast Episode James Sweigert’s childhood was challenging, to say the least. James struggled to be seen and stay safe amid the chaos, eventually turning to drugs and alcohol to cope. This self-destructive pattern continued until he changed his story—and his life. Today James is a successful executive producer and director in film and television and coaches many creative executives and celebrities in Hollywood. He has built, run and sold several multi-million dollar, award winning production companies in Hollywood. He writes about a key truth: the way you conceptualize your life—the story you tell yourself—makes it what it is. If you say so. As a motivational speaker and “Life Cheerleader”, James’s ultimate purpose is to help others change their old “stories” to transform their lives so they can flourish and be amazing! About The Psych Central Podcast Host Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations, available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. To learn more about Gabe, please visit his website, gabehoward.com.
28 min
ADHD reWired
ADHD reWired
Eric Tivers
351 | Mastermind Session: Moira in The Hot Seat Part 2
We are back with part 2 of the first mastermind episode for our Addmin from our 21st season. Today we have Roxie, Jessica, Natalie with Moira in the hot seat, continuing the discussion around rethinking her professional world and much more on this episode of . Eric and the mastermind continue the conversation around the podcast Moira would want to put out and whether she wants to do it independently or be under the ADHD reWired umbrella. They talk about what she feels her biggest weakness would be and how close she is to gather the information around her vision. Listen as Eric discusses the equipment and software she needs for the podcast and the best location to record with the best acoustics. They talk about where to research, how to podcast, who to listen to, and where to learn about editing and podcasting. The team finishes up with some words of encouragement and tells her to set a goal for when she wants to go live with her first episode and work towards that goal. We hope you found something you can take away from this mastermind session. Whatever the idea you have, we know that as people with ADHD; we have a lot of really big ideas, and we tend to be the ones who are crazy enough to think that we can do it. It always starts by figuring out what that first step is. You don't need to know all the steps; just start with the first thing and follow your passion. You'll learn: [02:16] Eric shares the things Moira would need if she wanted to podcast. [03:44] Would you want to do your own thing or do your own thing under the ADHD reWired umbrella? [04:35] Moira speaks about the time it would take to quit her job and start her new career. [06:08] What do you think your bandwidth would be? How much time could you spend? [09:07] Moira discusses being in Canada and what that would like with people in the U.S. when it comes to rates. [11:13] Eric shares what he is looking for when bringing in coaches. [12:51] People with mental health challenges and knowing how to handle them are where Moira feels her weakness. [15:10] There are many books and research out there around coaching and mental health issues. [18:34] Moira is a very visual person and has gathered a lot of information about making the change and getting a vision. [20:01] Jessica will send a form to Moira to help her get everything she needs to get her brand ready. [22:01] When would you like your first episode of the podcast air? [25:50] Moira says she might be able to air her first episode by the end of the year. [28:00] If you were to launch your podcast in the first week of January, what would you need to do this week? [30:40] Eric talks about doing a podcast on the cheap to start and what equipment she needs. [33:16] Eric lets her know she will need to learn how to edit and some suggestions on who to listen to. [35:45] Jessica and Natalie give her some words of encouragement. [37:31] Thank you for listening to part 2 of this mastermind session. [39:26] If you are a regular listener, consider becoming a patron, click on our Patreon tab at Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Groups The 16th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability groups are ending soon.  ArC 17 Summer Sessions run July 11th – Sept. 19th.   We only have 9 spots remaining. Please visit to learn more and sign-up for our Last Scheduled Registration Event on June 11th at 3 PM CT.  You don’t want to miss it! Support the Podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks.  One perk example is our Patron-only Group Coaching Sessions.  Learn more at . ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to apply to join the ADHD reWired Secret Facebook group, go to and fill out the application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 PM CT. Go to Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, .
44 min
Psychologists Off The Clock
Psychologists Off The Clock
Diana Hill, Debbie Sorensen, Yael Schonbrun & Jill Stoddard
173. Confidence, Self-Doubt, and Overcoming Limitations with Our New Team Member, Michael Herold
In his TEDx talk, Michael Herold, public speaker, confidence coach, and podcaster extraordinaire, says, “Things you will achieve in your life, you will achieve because of your disability, not in spite of it.” In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Michael talks with Debbie and Yael about confidence, self-doubt, and overcoming limitations. Limitations are all around us. These might be thoughts about how unqualified we are, feelings of anxiety, or even physical disabilities such as spinal muscular atrophy, but Michael Herold has some good news. We can overcome the limitations that come from our own heads, by taking Comfort Zone Challenges! Join us in this episode to learn about how to work with those limitations, instead of against them, to achieve the life you want.  The Psychologists Off the Clock are excited to welcome Michael aboard as our new Strategic Consultant. Join us to for this episode to meet Michael and learn about our new team member!  Listen and Learn How to build confidence and step outside your comfort zone About Michael’s transition from animator to public speaker, coach, and podcaster  Why Acceptance and Commitment Therapy resonates with Michael and how it changed his life  How Michael’s disability, spinal muscular atrophy, has shaped his unique perspective  How you can use values to overcome your limitations About motivational porn and the microaggressions we often use when discussing people who have ‘overcome’ disability-related limitations Why it’s so important to connect with people and how to do that  Inside information on how Coach Michael works to build his clients’ confidence  Tips and tricks from the master himself on how to build your own confidence Resources from this Podcast Episode Michael's TEDx talk  Michael’s website Michael's podcast: The Art of Charm   The Art of Charm Podcast's Episode featuring Michael  The Art of Charm Podcast's Core Confidence Program  Viktor Frankl's Book: Man's Search for Meaning  Michael’s Short Film “When I grow up” All of Michael’s short animated films  Michael Herold   About Michael Herold Early in his life, doctors told Michael Herold’s parents that his severe disability would keep him from living a normal life. The doctors were right. Michael’s life has been anything but normal. In fact, he is quite a renaissance man. For over a decade, Michael was a successful animator for Nickelodeon and worked on a variety of shows including Penguins of Madagascar and Kung Fu Panda. He currently does public speaking around the world and has recently spoken in front of parliament and given a TEDx talk. Michael also uses skills and exercises from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to provide coaching on a variety of life-skills including public speaking, self-doubt, communication, and, primarily, confidence. Visit Michael’s website to find out more!      Episode 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin Andrews Episode 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica Williams Episode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes Episode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran Episode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy
1 hr 16 min
The Faster Than Normal Podcast: ADD | ADHD | Health
The Faster Than Normal Podcast: ADD | ADHD | Health
Peter Shankman
Top Copywriter, Serial Entrepreneur Stefan Georgi Talks Hyperfocus and ADHD
Stefan Georgi is considered one of the top direct response copywriters in the world and his words have grossed over $700MM via 50+ direct response marketing pieces. This includes numerous direct response pieces that are actively grossing over $10MM a month for both Stefan and his clients. A serial entrepreneur with multiple multimillion dollar companies under his belt, Stefan mentors numerous entrepreneurs and freelancers and through his copywriting programs, Copy Accelerator and RMBC, and his call center business, Turtle Peak. Today we’re talking about how he uses his ADHD and hyper focus to his benefit, every day. Enjoy! ***CORONA VIRUS EDITION*** In this episode Peter & Stefan Georgi discuss: 1:52- Intro and welcome Stefan! 2:45- So.. how goes the parenting while working form home going during this pandemic? 4:00- On the deep zone of focus/work zone- how do you get back into it when interrupted? 5:00- The daily routine 7:58- On freedom through discipline 9:18- What do you suggest when it comes to staying active and staying at it, in this environment? 10:20- ADHD in the winter and being diagnosed for a second time 12:38- What are some even more basic things you can do that help, say, if you don’t have a pool, etc? 13:34- How are you thriving in this environment and how are you preventing distraction(s)? Ref: Pomodoro Technique 16:06- How can people find you? Via his website: www.stefanpaulgeorgi.com and @StefanPaulGeorgi on Facebook @StefanGeorgi on Twitter INSTA Medium and LinkedIN 17:00- Thank you Stefan! And thank YOU for subscribing, reviewing and listening. Your reviews are working! Even if you’ve reviewed us before, would you please write even a short one for this episode? Each review that you post helps to ensure that word will continue to spread, and that we will all be able to reach & help more people! You can always reach me via peter@shankman.com or @petershankman on all of the socials. You can also find us at @FasterThanNormal on all of the socials. STAY HEALTHY - STAY SAFE - PLEASE WEAR YOUR MASK.. until next time! 17:33- Faster Than Normal Podcast info & credits As always, leave us a comment below and please drop us a review on iTunes and of course, subscribe to the podcast if you haven’t already! As you know, the more reviews we get, the more people we can reach. Help us to show the world that ADHD is a gift, not a curse! Do you know of anyone you think should be on the FTN podcast? Shoot us a note, we’d love to hear! TRANSCRIPT: Hey guys, Peter, Shankman welcome to another episode of Faster Than Normal. Thrilled that you're here. As I always am hope you're doing well in this glorious actually kind of rainy looking out the window. It's going to pour pretty soon, but you know what? Hey, still better than the alternative. So glad to have you here, guys. I want to introduce you to Stefan. I am going to screw it up. He just told me five seconds ago, how to pronounce his name and I already forgot. Say say your name- Georgi. I was, I was close guys. Welcome to Stefan. Welcome to step under dry. He is without a doubt. Pretty impressive. He's a father who has ADHD, right. He faces his own battles being, working dad during quarantine, but it's pretty impressive what he's managed to do, you know, I mean, look, we've all, we've all gotten screwed over the past eight months, right? I mean, I remember when this y'all a couple of weeks, hang out my daughter, yay it will be fun. And it quickly turned into- imagined Morgan Freeman saying; but in fact, it was not fun and it became sort of eight months of, of, of nonstop, constant. everything, right? I can, I was multiple interviews interrupted, dad, how do I get onto zoom or whatever the case would be. And it's, it's been, it's been a struggle, but you know what? We figured it out. And an entrepreneur and CEO is fun. He's a father who has ADHD. He's faced his own battles, being a working dad during quarantine. So he's even talked to us about sort of how he managed to navigate this time. And more importantly, what you can do to do the same. So welcome to the podcast. Good to have you, man. Yeah, thank you. It's really great to be here. So you sent me a bunch of stuff about, uh, what's things. I mean, I should mention also that, you know, in your, in your other life, when you're not being a dad dealing with all this, you're one of the top direct response copywriters in the world. And the words you put on paper grossed, it was $700 million. Um, by a 50 direct response marketing pieces. How are you from me? Um, you've done God. I mean, numerous response because they're actually actively grossing over 10 million a month for both you and your clients. You got several multimillion dollar companies under your belt. You're a serial entrepreneur like I am, uh, pretty impressive. And you have a call center business, have a copy accelerators, not bad, man. So, but let's get back to what we're talking about. None of that matters, right? When you're dealing with, uh, uh, for me a seven year old kid, who's you know, who can't figure out why. Why her laptops off and like, well, cause remember I told you to plug it in and you didn't, that would be why, you know, all that stuff, everything I've done on TV, nothing really matters. What matters is the kid can turn on a laptop. Right. So you've been in that mode. Yeah, I haven't, yeah, my daughter's two and a half. And, um, so it's interesting cause she doesn't fully understand, you know, what's going on with the lockdown and, and it's kind of like a blessing in a way, uh, to be able to spend so much time at home and to see her so often. But, uh, you know, the whole, like daddy's working thing is, um, can only go so far. She, she actually. Yeah, bless her heart is now she's getting closer to three. She'll kind of go, you know, daddy's working and give me a big hug and a kiss. And, um, Kind of walk away, but, but even, you know, today I was trying to do kind of deep focused work writing copy for a client. And she keeps coming to the doors of my office and coming in and then wanting to like, look at pictures and like, you know, I love her more than anything else in this world. So like, I'm, you know, I want her to do that, but, uh, you know, it can be disruptive when you're trying to put your attention into something and then your kids coming in kind of disrupting that and trying to take your attention regularly. So that can definitely be a challenge. Well, I mean, from an ADHD perspective, you do you get into the zone. You're in deep work zone. You're you're, you're crushing it. And then something pulls you out of that. Getting back into it's a bitch. Yeah, exactly. Um, it's, it's, it's tough. And especially I think happening like once is bad enough, but when it happens sometimes like, you know, three or four times over a half, an hour or 45 minute period, it's it gets very frustrating as, as I'm sure you're, you know, you're very much aware as well. So let's, let's start with that. I mean, you're looking at, you know, this isn't going away, right? I mean, my kid is in her second day back in, in real school, there she's actually in classroom, but you know who the hell knows how long that's going to last. Right. So I'm predicting two weeks and they're back. So, you know, what do you do? Yeah, for me, some of the things that I've been stretching strategies up into kind of like employing one is I like I'm an early riser and I like to wake up early anyway. And so really embracing that and in the kind of the first couple of hours of the morning, I'll wake up at between five 30 and 6:30 AM. And then right now, at least my daughter. And my wife both don't really wake up until like around 8:00 AM and then they may be up with they're kind of laying around and, and my daughter is again, very lucky. She's a pretty good sleeper and we kind of had our sleep schedule early. So, you know, if I wake up at five 30, uh, I'll have a cup…
18 min
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
David Burns, MD
217: Ask David: Is human "worthwhileness" worthwhile? Why am I always the the last to find out about anything? A Daily Gratitude Log, Positive Reframing and more!
Today's Ask David features four terrific questions. * Kevin asks: Why is the concept of worthwhileness and worthlessness so important to people and their emotional health? * Vallejo asks: Does the statement, "WHY AM I ALWAYS THE LAST ONE TO FIND OUT ABOUT ANYTHING?” correspond to overgeneralization, or self-blame? I’ve been listening to the early podcasts on the ten positive and negative cognitive distortions. * David P asks: Do you think there is anything to be gained from a daily gratitude log, to go along with the daily mood log? * Harvey asks: I don’t see how Positive Reframing actually contributes to the therapy. * Kevin asks: Why are the concepts of worthwhileness and worthlessness so important to people and their emotional health? Hi David, I have a quick question about the concept of being a worthwhile human being. Suppose a person believes they are unconditionally worthwhile, what are the implications of this? Why are the concepts of worthwhileness and worthlessness so important to people and their emotional health? Best Regards, Kevin Hi Kevin, Thanks! That’s a very important question. However, it is abstract and philosophical. I have found that philosophical discussions tend to go on endlessly with resolve. In contrast, when someone asks for help with a specific moment when she or he was upset, then I can usually show that person how to change the way she or he is feeling. And when that happens, the person generally suddenly “sees” the solution to some very profound philosophical or spiritual questions. All that being said, I’ll take a crack at it. The goal of TEAM therapy is not to go from thinking that you’re a worthless human being to thinking that you’re a worthwhile human being, but to give up these concepts as nonsensical. Specific activities, talents or thoughts can be more or less worthwhile, but a human being cannot be more or less worthwhile. We can judge specific events, actions, and so forth, but not humans. At least I am not aware of how to validly judge a human being, or a group of humans. We can only judge their actions, attitudes, thoughts, and so forth. Unconditional self-esteem is definitely better than conditional self-esteem, since you don’t have to be perfect or a great achiever or a great anything to be “worthwhile,” but you are still focused on being "worthwhile." I'm not sure what that means, but there is a downside, to my way of thinking. If you think you are worthwhile because you are a human being, does that mean that you are more worthwhile than animals? Lots of people abuse animals, hunt animals, and so forth, which many people find immensely disturbing. These are some of the consequences of thinking that animals are less worthwhile, for example. Not sure that helps, but like your line of questioning! David Kevin follows up: What is the implication then of giving up these concepts at all? I assume that thinking that you have unconditional worthwhileness because you are alive or to drop these concepts entirely have the same emotional implications for people. What are these implications? For example, if I think that worthwhileness and worthlessness are meaningless concepts, so what? What’s the point? What do I gain? Hi Kevin, Let me start by saying, once again, that I am not an evangelist spreading the “gospel,” so to speak. My goal is simply to help people who are struggling with feelings of depression, anxiety, and self-doubt. So, if your way of thinking about things is working for you, there’s no reason to change. But my focus is always on someone who is suffering, and that’s where these concepts can sometimes be important. I can tell you what I gained by giving up the idea that I could be, or needed to be “worthwhile” or “special.” I gained a great deal of joy. It was a lot like escaping from a mental prison. It freed me to find incredible joy in the “ordinary” events of my daily life. It also freed me from fears of “failure” or not being “good enough.” Depression always results from Overgeneralization--you generalize from failing at something specific to thinking you are a failure as a human being. Without Overgeneralization, I think it is safe to say that it is impossible to be depressed. For example, if you measure your worthwhileness based on your achievements and success, you may feel excited when you succeed and devastated or anxious when you fail, or when you are in danger of failing. I'm not sure if this addresses your excellent question! A young woman told herself that she was "unloveable" when she and her boyfriend broke up after two years of going together. Can you see that she thinks she has a "self" that can be "loveable" or "unloveable?" This thought was very disturbing to her, as you might imagine. Relationships do not break up because someone is "unloveable," but because of specific factors or events that drive people apart. Once you zero in on why the relationship failed, or more correctly, why the two of you broke up, then you can pinpoint the causes and learn and grow so you can make your next relationship even better. There are tons of specific reasons why people break up! But if you think that you’re “unloveable,” or tell yourself that the relationship was “a failure,” then you may get stuck in a morass of negative feelings. But it’s not even true that the relationship was a failure.” That’s All-or-Nothing Thinking, since all relationships are a mixture of more or less successful aspects. You could even tell yourself that a “failed” relationship was a partial success, since you successfully learned that this isn’t the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. What’s in it for you to give up Overgeneralization and All-or-Nothing Thinking, as well as the concepts of being a “worthwhile” or “worthless” human being? That’s a decision each person can make. There are benefits as well as problems with these ways of thinking. For example, let’s say you’re depressed and think of yourself as “defective.” This is a common negative thought, and it is based on the idea that a human being could be more or less worthwhile, or thinking that your "self" can be judged or rated. So, you could do two Cost-Benefit Analyses. * * First, you could list the advantages and disadvantages of thinking of yourself as a “defective” human being. Then balance the advantages against the disadvantages on a 100-point scale, assigning the larger number to the list that seems more important or desirable. * Second, you could list the advantages and disadvantages of thinking of yourself as a human being with defects, and once again balance the list of advantages against the disadvantages on a 100-point scale. This is just a subtle change in semantics, but the emotional implications can sometimes be pretty powerful. As I mentioned at the top, philosophical debates are just debates. Fun, perhaps, but not terribly useful. I’m more interested in magic, or miracles. That’s what happens at the moment of profound change, which can ONLY happen by focusing on one specific moment when you felt upset and needed help. When you do that, everything becomes radically different, and real change can occur. And at that magic moment of change, the solutions to all of the problems of philosophy will often suddenly become crystal clear. Or, to put it differently, the philosophical debates will suddenly become, without meaning to sound harsh, almost a waste of previous time. Our current semi-feral cat loves my wife, but is only starting to trust me, so I’ve been working at gaining her trust and learning to understand her non-verbal and somewhat complex efforts to communicate. Yesterday she roller over on her back and stretch out her front and back paws to expose her tummy to the max, and she let me pet her tummy for quite a long time, purring loudly the whole time. I don’t car…
1 hr 2 min
The Trauma Therapist
The Trauma Therapist
Guy Macpherson, PhD
Episode 491: Alisa Zipursky. Helping Trauma Therapists Heal
Alisa is a storyteller, writer, facilitator and childhood sexual abuse survivor. Her work focuses on offering emotional support to other young survivors healing from sexual trauma. Alisa is a MothStorySLAM competition champ ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=1s&v=HpAmX1PCwm0 ) and has been in publications such as Allure ( https://www.allure.com/story/childhood-sexual-abuse-activists?fbclid=IwAR3YzbWiWYebDA-lopfR11DWk11giEFBnnIEvEkCkM9m0PcacDtKovHUgb4 ) , Teen Vogue ( https://www.teenvogue.com/contributor/alisa-zipursky ) , BUST ( http://bust.com/feminism/19272-best-friend-survivor-healing.html ) , TIME ( http://time.com/5413109/brett-kavanaugh-supreme-court-survivors-trigger-ptsd/ ) , The Guardian ( https://www.theguardian.com/intimacy-secrets-for-all/ng-interactive/2017/jun/01/how-to-communicate-with-your-partner-for-better-intimacy ) , Bustle ( https://www.bustle.com/p/9-awkward-things-you-your-partner-can-do-to-feel-emotionally-safe-in-your-relationship-10247983 ) , Thought Catalog ( http://thoughtcatalog.com/alisa-zipursky/2016/10/how-learning-to-hurt-people-is-helping-me-heal/ ) , Oprah Winfrey Network ( http://www.oprah.com/own-queensugar/the-theme-that-resonates-with-this-fan-healing ) , Hello Giggles ( https://hellogiggles.com/love-sex/how-to-stop-gaslighting-in-a-relationship/ ) , Brit+Co ( https://www.brit.co/how-to-support-a-friend-with-family-stress-holidays/ ) , and the Voices for Change 2.0 podcast ( https://www.spreaker.com/user/bekalombardo/vfc-2-22?autoplay=1 ). While based in DC, she travels around the country giving talks and facilitating workshops to support other young survivors in their communities. *In This Episode* * Alisa's Website ( https://healinghonestly.com/ ) * Work With Alisa ( https://healinghonestly.com/speaking-and-workshops ) * Love WITH Accountability: Digging up the Roots of Child Sexual Abuse ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1849353522/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?creative=9325&creativeASIN=1849353522&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=26e183aa62d862b6ca1ef102f0ced138&tag=wescoatrapro-20 ) , Aishah Shahidah Simmons Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-trauma-therapist-podcast-with-guy-macpherson-phd-inspiring-interviews-with-thought-leaders-in-the-field-of-trauma/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands
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